It is hard and difficult and comlicated.But can it be that complex when its accessible to everyone?
In my opinion it's a matter of common interests.Having the ability to make some one else smile and pause on your eyes, a mutual moment.
Obviously you need intial attraction. It's not superficial, it's just natural.
I'm not talking about your dream or fantasy partner appearing to you and you live happily ever after, nothing/no one is that perfect. Speaking from experience.Is it fair that everyone should experience it, or is it just false imitations for those who just play with it.
Live your sad, lonely lives.
Because believe me one day you shall soon discover you are lonely when you jump from one persons lips to another. I hope you do because you don't deserve love until you accept that.